In preparation for the NextGen 2022 conference on how to have a self-confident child, we have prepared a series of articles to help you get into the conference.
So for starters, we asked some of our teachers and other members of the ISO team what they thought about self-esteem. So, we invite you to grab a cup of coffee or tea and extract the wisest ideas from the lines below
What is self-confidence
„Self-confidence is to smile even when you have many things on your mind, to have a second to talk to a parent or a child, to a member of the staff. Self-confidence is to take action and express your opinion.” says Ms Carmen.
„Self-confidence – trust in my abilities, capacities, and judgments, or belief that I can successfully face day to day challenges and demands. Self-confidence is also about happiness. When you are confident in your abilities you are happier due to your successes. When you are feeling better about your capabilities, the more energized and motivated you are to take action and achieve your goals. I would also like to point out regarding this matter that many people confuse self-confidence with self-esteem. Self-confidence means confidence in your own abilities, and self-esteem means the ability to appreciate yourself,” says Ms Florina, who always welcomes us with a smile at the reception.
Ms Cristina says that „Self-confidence for me means that you have to trust yourself and believe in yourself in your abilities. To handle every situation of your life with a smile on your face. We are the only ones who can believe in ourselves and push up to do big things!”
Ms Salomeea believes that „Self-confidence for me is the capacity of knowing more than anyone else knows. It means knowing how you are going to react to certain situations and the capacity of believing that anything you want to achieve (a realistic goal) you will achieve. It’s doing from the impossible – possible. It’s the mindset of another day, another win.”
What is a self-confident child
A self-confident child requires a mixture of self-confidence and self-esteem. A self-assured child will be an adult who knows where they are going, who knows how to enjoy life, who appreciates themselves with the good and the bad, and who knows that they have the skills to get what they want.
In our school we believe that a self-confident child easily breaks away from parents, always seeks to explore, is curious to try new foods and get involved in new activities.
- A self-confident child is curious and open to asking questions or asking for help.
- A self-confident child expresses easily desires, emotions, and thoughts.
- A self-confident child is energetic. No matter how much work this will give us.
- A self-assured child can easily say what they want or not and who does not wait for their parents to hand everything over to them. There is a difference between a child who takes his own bottle of water to drink or one who waits to be asked if he is thirsty and wants water.
- A self-confident child is self-aware. Starting from the nursery. We have children in the nursery who not only have the ability to do more things (appropriate for their age, obviously) than other children, but who are also very eager to help others.
If self-confidence means the ability to rely on your own capabilities, and self-esteem means the ability to appreciate yourself, then we can say that the two are closely related. The more I appreciate myself, the more I will trust my own strength. The more I trust my abilities and the more I get the results I want, the more likely I am to appreciate myself. At the same time, in order to have a healthy self-esteem, it is important to appreciate myself even when I fail to realize what I have set out to do.
In our school we believe that in order to raise children who are confident in their own strength, we must first show them that we have faith in them. It is good to let them do small activities suitable for their age: to get up when they fall if they did not injure themselves, to take the plate to the sink, to encourage them to play on their own, to dress themselves, to put their shoes away, to eat by themselves, to eat as much as they think they need. And we also believe that we have to give them frequent hugs and that self-confidence is born of love!